Share the story

ask. admire. admit.

"Again I say, don't get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights.  A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people.  Gently instruct those who oppose the truth.  Perhaps God will change those people's hearts, and they will learn the truth. Then they will come to their senses and escape from the devil's trap. For they have been held captive by him to do whatever he wants."

2 Timothy 2:23-26

-How can you go into the conversation prepared to share your story?  Know what you're talking about. It is your responsibility to share with others, so it is your responsibility to know what you're talking about. Share your personal experience. This is your testimony. Show genuine concern for the other person.  This person matters to God, so they should matter to you.

-The Gospel is not a presentation. The Gospel is the story of how Jesus made it possible for us to know God. It is the greatest story ever told!

-Ask great questions. Ask them questions about what they believe, not to trap them, but to understand them and break down any relational barriers that are keeping them from considering Jesus. As you listen, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal their needs to you.

-Admire what you can about what they believe. Find areas of common ground where you can complement them. Don't affirm their heresy, but their honesty. Finding something you can admire about what they believe builds a bridge instead of a wall. 

-Admit that without Jesus you were messed up, and that you're a Christian because of what he's done in your life.  Once you've listened to someone else, they are more likely to listen to you. This may take numerous exchanges before they open up to you. These type of relationships aren't built overnight. 

"A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare."

Proverbs 15:1